Want to Last Longer? Start Here First.

Hey Modern Man,

As a doctor who’s helped over 7,000 men with their vitality and wellness, I get this question all the time:
“How long should a romp actually last?”

Let’s clear the air with science and tips 👇

⏳ How Long Is "Enough"? ⏳

Research shows that the average time for the main event ranges between 3 to 7 minutes (measured from penetration to climax). But here’s the kicker, what’s "too short" or "too long" depends on personal and partner preferences.

• Too quick? Under 1-2 minutes.

• Just right? 7-13 minutes.

• Too long? Over 10-30 minutes (can cause discomfort for some).

💡 Dr. Anne’s Tip of the Day 💡

Don’t skip the warm-up.

Build-up time (aka the foreplay phase) can take your session from average to awesome. Many partners value this more than the main act.

• Try at least 10–15 minutes of connection before the headliner.

• Ask your partner what they like, simple conversations, big results.

📬 Ask Dr. Anne 📬

Q: “What can I do if I finish too quickly?”

A: That’s called a quick draw, and it’s more common than you think. Some guys benefit from:

• Mindfulness techniques
  Learning how to stay present in the moment can help slow your response time. Breathwork, body scans, and mental focus training reduce tension and bring your nervous system back into balance. Less stress = more control.

• Pelvic floor training
  Strong pelvic muscles (yes, guys have them too) give you more control over when and how you finish. Think of it like upgrading your internal brakes. Kegel-style exercises or specialized devices (like the high-frequency chair we use in the clinic) can build strength and endurance down there.

• Start-stop methods
  This is a simple, proven technique that involves pausing before the point of no return, then restarting once you’ve cooled off. It helps rewire your timing and gives you more confidence over time. Practicing this solo or with a partner can make a huge difference.

📣 What Most People Won’t Say 📣

There’s no such thing as "normal" when it comes to the length of intimacy. Every couple is different. Age, health, mindset, and communication all play a part.

If you’ve ever felt “off” because you didn’t last long, or did, it’s time to shake that mindset.

Your body’s timeline doesn’t define your worth.

🔧 Toolbox for Better Sessions 🔧

Want to level up your intimacy game? Here are three underrated yet powerful tools that make a big difference, no extra time required.

• Communication: Talk Before and After
  Before things get steamy, a quick chat can help set the vibe. Ask what your partner likes, what feels good, or even if they’re stressed or tired.

  Afterward? A little pillow talk about what went well (or what to try next time) keeps the connection strong and makes every round better than the last.

  
  Pro Tip:
  Try using phrases like “I really liked when you…” or “Next time, let’s try…” affirming and exciting.

• Routines: Switch It Up
  Falling into a rhythm is great, until it gets stale. Change the setting, try a different time of day, or even lead with something unexpected. Novelty activates dopamine (your brain’s feel-good chemical) and can bring back that fresh spark.

  
  Try:
  Morning meetups, music in the background, or trading who takes the lead.

• Focus on Connection, Not Just Completion
  The best sessions aren’t measured in minutes, they’re remembered for how connected you felt. Eye contact, touch, laughter, and emotional presence often mean more than physical performance.

  It’s not about being “perfect,” it’s about being present.

• Try a no-pressure mindset
  “We’re just here to enjoy each other.” That shift alone can ease nerves and improve the whole experience.

Hey Modern Man,

In this week’s issue, I broke down the real science behind getting and keeping your soldier standing strong, naturally.

Let’s unpack the highlights and give you the tools to boost your performance, energy, and confidence, without awkward side effects or spammy promises.

🤔 What Drives a Stronger Performance 🤔

A long-lasting lift isn’t just luck. It’s an orchestra of your:

• Brain

  It all starts upstairs. Your brain is your most powerful tool, arousal begins here, triggered by what you see, hear, touch, think, and even imagine. If your mind’s not in the game, your body won’t follow.
  

• Blood Flow

  Think of blood flow like fuel for your engine. Clear, healthy arteries = stronger and longer performance. But clogged or constricted vessels? That’s like stepping on the gas with no fuel in the tank.
  

• Hormones

  Testosterone is the MVP hormone for stamina, desire, and energy. When it’s too low, motivation and physical response dip with it. Keep it at healthy levels, and the difference is night and day.
  

• Mental State

  Stress, overthinking, and performance anxiety are the ultimate momentum killers. They activate your fight-or-flight system, tightening blood vessels and shutting down the moment. Calm = control.

Without one of these working in sync, the whole show gets shut down.

✨ Secret Little Hacks ✨

Want a better boost without medications? Try these science-backed, doc-approved tweaks:

• Sniff Your Way to Strength
  Certain scents, like vanilla and lavender, can boost blood flow. Keep them in your space.
  

• Cold Shower Finish

  Ending with 30 seconds of cold water? Great for hormone balance and blood flow.
  

• Magnesium Magic

  Found in spinach, almonds, and dark choc. It relaxes your blood vessels.
  

• Digital Detox Before Bed

  Less screen time = more natural testosterone. Try 30 screen-free minutes nightly.
  

• 15-Min Walk After Dinner

  Improves insulin sensitivity and circulation. Your future self will thank you.

🛠️ Long-Term Fixes That Stick 🛠️

Do these regularly, and your performance will thank you.

• Meditate 5 minutes a day (yes, really)

• Cut down on the booze, it messes with hormones

• Ditch the smokes, your arteries will reopen

• Lift weights 2–3x per week to naturally boost testosterone

• Get sunlight daily (10-15 mins = testosterone boost)

📥 Want Stronger Results? Start Here 📥

• Eat clean

  Fuel your body with foods that support blood flow and hormone production. Think: leafy greens, healthy fats, lean protein, and plenty of water. The Mediterranean diet is a great blueprint.
  

• Get moving

  Exercise boosts circulation, testosterone, and confidence. Just 30 minutes a day of walking, lifting, or even stretching can make a noticeable difference.
  

• Relax your mind

  Stress is the silent killer of performance. Breathing exercises, meditation, or even unplugging from your phone for a while can calm your system and activate your body’s natural response.

• Test your testosterone

  Low T is more common than you think, and often undiagnosed. A simple blood test gives you the data you need to take charge of your health and energy.
  

• Let your body do the rest

  When you align your lifestyle with your biology, everything starts to click. You don’t have to force it, your body already knows what to do. You just have to give it the right tools.

You were built for this.

🔬 What’s The “Get Hard System”? 🔬

I created this multi-step method for men who are tired of short-term solutions. It’s built on:

• Focused Shockwave Therapy – Boosts blood flow

• Stem Cell Injections – Restores tissue health

• Botox – Relaxes the muscles where it counts

• High-Frequency Chair – 10,000 Kegels in 30 mins

• Diet + Lifestyle Coaching – Keeps the results going

Want to learn more? Schedule a discovery call with my team to know the full breakdown. It’s discreet, effective, and science-based.

❓ Q&A of the Week ❓

Q: I get nervous, and then… nothing. What’s going on?
A: You’re not alone, this is one of the most common issues guys face. When you get anxious, your brain triggers the sympathetic nervous system (aka the fight-or-flight mode). That’s great if you’re running from a bear… not so great when you’re trying to connect.

This stress response tightens your blood vessels and shuts off blood flow down there, making it nearly impossible to get or keep momentum.

Q: I’m in my 40s, does age really make a big difference?
A: Yes, age matters, but it’s not the villain here. Think of it more like a wake-up call. In your 40s and beyond, your body produces less testosterone, and your blood vessels may not function quite as smoothly. But here’s the truth: Most of the issues that creep up in your 40s are lifestyle-related, not aging itself.

Q: Can this really be reversed without medications?
A: 100% yes, and there’s science to back it up. Most cases of performance struggles are related to reversible causes like poor circulation, low testosterone, chronic stress, or tight pelvic muscles. These aren’t permanent—and they don’t always require a prescription.

🧭 Action Plan: 4 Things to Start Today 🧭

So, while nose length isn’t exactly something you can tweak… here’s what is within your control:

• Use a pump
  Regular use of a vacuum pump can improve both stretch length and thickness by 0.5–1 inch over time.

• Add traction
  Combine with a traction device for an added 20–30% boost. But consistency is key, stop the routine, and gains can fade.

• Hydration + circulation hacks
  Nitrate-rich foods (like beets, spinach, arugula) and L-arginine supplements can boost blood flow, helping both size and stamina.

• Pelvic floor workouts
  Stronger pelvic muscles = better performance and control.

Disclaimer: The statements made here have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration and represent the professional opinion(s) of the author. The purpose of this is not to act as a personal physician to any reader and is not meant to directly or indirectly diagnose disease, dispense medical advice, or prescribe the use of any products or services as treatment for sickness or disease. This information is for educational purposes only. You should always cooperate with a licensed health professional of your choice with the goal of creating optimal health. Please consult your physician prior to implementing any of the strategies mentioned in this or starting any diet, exercise, or health program—especially if you are pregnant or nursing. Any application or use of the information, resources, or recommendations contained here is at your own risk.

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