She Wants You to Read This (Even If She Won’t Say It)

Hello there, Modern Man.

In this week's issue, we dropped 10 science-backed, medication-free strategies to naturally improve your bedroom performance. From movement to mindset, these are the tools every modern man should have in his arsenal.

Here are a few of our favorites:

• Exercise daily: 30 minutes a day (brisk walk, bike, swim) beats pills for long-term results.

• Ditch ultra-processed foods: Think more berries, fish, and nuts.

• Prioritize sleep & stress management: Less stress = more natural energy.

• Try caffeine (moderately): Yep, your morning brew helps blood flow.

• Pump it up: A vacuum device = the gym for your guy downstairs.

🧠 Did You Know? 🧠

• Just 30 minutes of walking per day is associated with a 41% reduction in performance issues.

• Foods rich in flavonoids and antioxidants (like berries and dark chocolate) are linked to improved circulation.

🥗 Your Blood Flow Plate 🥗

Want better circulation? Add these to your plate:

• Beets: Boost nitric oxide naturally

• Leafy greens: Spinach and kale = heart-healthy

• Salmon and walnuts: Rich in omega-3s

• Dark chocolate: Improves artery flexibility

• Watermelon: High in citrulline for vascular flow

Avoid: Sugary drinks, fried foods, and processed meats.

✨ Tips of the Week ✨

Small changes, big impact. Here are three easy-to-implement habits that compound over time to boost performance, energy, and confidence:

1. Pelvic Power Boost

   Strengthen the underrated muscles responsible for control and stamina, your pelvic floor. Do 10 slow, controlled squeezes (as if stopping your urine stream), twice a day. Start lying down if needed. Consistency here = better support where it matters most.
   

2. The Wind-Down Alarm

   Set an evening alarm, not to wake up, but to power down. Aim to disconnect from screens, news, and stress at least 60 minutes before bed. This helps you reach deeper sleep cycles (REM), where testosterone production and overnight recovery kick in.
   

3. Smarter Weight Tracking

   Ditch the scale guilt. Instead of focusing just on pounds, invest in a biometric scale that tracks fat percentage, muscle mass, and hydration. Muscle weighs more than fat; what matters most is your body composition, not just your weight.

Try these out for the next 7 days, you’ll be surprised how much better you feel with just a few tweaks.

🧬 Quick Research Hit 🧬

A groundbreaking study found that men who consistently engaged in moderate-to-intense physical activity, such as brisk walking, cycling, or swimming for at least 150 minutes per week, reported significantly improved bedroom performance and satisfaction.

Even better? Participants noted improvements without relying on medication. The study emphasized how regular movement boosts cardiovascular health, increases nitric oxide production, and supports hormonal balance, all critical for stronger, more reliable performance.

✅ Action Checklist ✅

• Walk 30 min/day

• Eat more beets and berries

• Do 20 pelvic floor reps

• Cut alcohol to less than 3 drinks/week

• Sleep 7–8 hours per night

• Cut processed food

• Track your waist size

• Book a T-level blood work

Hey Modern Man.

Ever felt like her body is a mystery? You’re not alone, and even many women haven’t explored all the keys to their pleasure. Dr. Carolyn DeLucia, renowned OBGYN and intimacy expert, joined us this week to drop seriously eye-opening truths about the female system that every Modern Man needs to know.

Let’s get to it.

🧠 Did You Know? 🧠

The female pleasure hub, the clitoris, has twice as many nerve endings as the male equivalent (10,000 vs. 4,000). That’s not a typo. It’s nature’s most concentrated sensory powerhouse.

But here’s the twist most people miss:

It’s not just the tip. The full structure extends deep inside the body, with crura (legs) and vestibular bulbs that wrap around the vaginal opening, kind of like an iceberg where 90% is below the surface.

Understanding this isn’t just biology, it’s a blueprint for a better connection.

Pro Tip: The real magic happens when you ask what she enjoys instead of guessing. Curiosity and communication are what make you unforgettable, not just moves.

🔥 Secret Little Hacks 🔥

• 24-Hour Foreplay Rule

  Foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom; it starts when you pour her morning coffee, send that flirty text, or remember something she told you last week. Emotional connection fuels physical chemistry. If you want her engaged at night, invest in the moments before noon.
  

• Crura Zone Awareness

  Hidden in plain sight: the space between her inner and outer lips houses the crura, part of the deeper pleasure network most men overlook. Light, intentional touch here can trigger a powerful response. It’s not about pressure; it’s about presence.
  

• Use Lube Like a Pro

  Whether it’s to boost comfort, extend pleasure, or make things feel smoother, Uberlube is a go-to favorite. It’s clean, scent-free, and mimics natural glide. Keep it on the nightstand, it’s not a backup plan, it’s part of your A-game.

🧘 Exercise Tips for Better Connection 🧘

Just like you train for physical performance, your emotional and sensual game improves with practice. Try this:

Sensory Awareness Drill (5 min/day):

• Close your eyes. Gently touch your own hands, arms, and face. Notice how different touches feel.

• Repeat the process with your partner. Ask questions: “Is this too soft? Do you like it firmer?”

It’s not awkward, it’s data. And that data pays off.

✅ Action Items: Be a Smarter Partner ✅

• Ask her what feels good. Don’t guess.

  Every woman is wired differently. The best way to find the right buttons? Ask. A simple, “Do you like it this way?” opens the door to deeper connection and way better results.
  

• Give 10+ minutes of foreplay, minimum.

  This isn’t optional, it’s essential. Think of it as warming up the engine before a road trip. The longer the warm-up, the smoother the ride.
  

• Start with kindness outside the bedroom.
  Text her, compliment her, laugh with her. Great intimacy starts with an emotional connection. The things you do during the day (how you talk to her, listen, support) set the stage for everything that happens later.
  

• Learn her arousal pace. She's not a light switch.

  Some days she’s ready quickly. Other days, it takes time and patience. Tune in to her rhythm and let her body (and body language) guide the way.

🌿 Health Focus: Understanding Her Body Changes 🌿

If she’s feeling dry or avoids closeness, it could be hormonal, not emotional. Menopause changes her internal chemistry. Support her, not pressure her.

Treatments include:

• Prescription topicals

• Regenerative therapies (e.g., PRP, laser)

• Gentle, consistent communication

💖 Emotional Connection Boosters 💖

Want to go from good to unforgettable? Try these:

• Write her a 2-line love note. Leave it where she’ll find it.

• Hug her for 10 seconds. No phones, no agenda.

• Sit together in silence for 5 minutes. Simple presence is intimacy, too.

📌 Little-Known Facts to Impress Her 📌

• Women secrete from multiple glands, not just one.

• The Skene’s glands produce a fluid similar to male fluid.

• The Bartholin’s glands only produce a small amount of lubrication, unlike what many believe.

Now you know more than 90% of guys out there.

📋 Weekly Casanova Checklist 📋

• Listen before you touch

• Ask what she enjoys

• 10+ minutes of real warm-up

• Use lube without shame

• Know where her real pleasure centers are

• Support her if she’s in menopause

• Bookmark this newsletter. Read it again.

❓ Q&A of the Week ❓

Q: What if she’s post-menopause and says intimacy is painful?
A: Don’t assume it’s the end. Treatments like topical estrogen, DHEA, and non-hormonal solutions can bring back comfort and joy within days.

Q: Is it normal for her drive to fluctuate?
A: Absolutely. Stress, hormones, sleep, and how connected she feels to you all impact her desire. Focus on emotional closeness and reducing pressure.

Q: How do I know she’s really enjoying it?
A: Watch for physical cues—breathing changes, muscle tension, moaning, or eye contact. But nothing beats a direct, “Do you like this?” in the moment.

Q: What if she never initiates?
A: That doesn't always mean lack of desire. Many women are taught to respond, not initiate. Encourage her, create safety, and express how much you enjoy it when she takes the lead.

Q: Should I be concerned if she doesn't reach the finish line every time?
A: Not necessarily. While the goal is shared satisfaction, some experiences are more about connection than outcome. Keep the pressure low and the communication high.

Q: Can talking about past experiences help?
A: If done with trust and sensitivity, yes. Sharing what’s worked (or hasn’t) in the past helps build a roadmap for your current relationship.

Disclaimer: The statements made here have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration and represent the professional opinion(s) of the author. The purpose of this is not to act as a personal physician to any reader and is not meant to directly or indirectly diagnose disease, dispense medical advice, or prescribe the use of any products or services as treatment for sickness or disease. This information is for educational purposes only. You should always cooperate with a licensed health professional of your choice with the goal of creating optimal health. Please consult your physician prior to implementing any of the strategies mentioned in this or starting any diet, exercise, or health program, especially if you are pregnant or nursing. Any application or use of the information, resources, or recommendations contained here is at your own risk.

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